ETIQUETTE AND SCREENING
I do not accept text messages or emails anymore for new clients. All new clients must go to my screening form to be screened. If you have a quick question about my availability you can use my contact form.
If you are experienced, you can scroll through the topics and read what you want to, just skip to my screening form.
If you're kind of new, please read this page completely before filling out the screening form
You'll learn how to protect yourself, make wise investments, and how to open doors with more selective providers.
ARE YOU MAKING THE RIGHT CHOICE?
First, I'm going to tell you how you can tell I am a safe and wise investment, then I will explain how I'll know you are safe, too.
ADS, REVIEWS AND SCREENING:
These sites are well-known sites that can be used for finding a provider, checking reviews and/or screening:
Screening and reviews
Find a provider
It doesn't really matter where you found her just make sure she has active ads and reviews out there.
TER and PD are two of the best review sites. This is important. Many review sites and and boards are not reputable. P411 is the oldest and most reputable site to find providers. It has been around for the longest. Meaning they have weathered through many storms and they are still standing. My rule of thumb is if P411 will let a provider put up a review link from a site, its legit. TER is highly reputable and P411 will endorse their reviews.
When you click on TER links above, you'll go to my page of reviews. From there you can read the reviews, or click on the reviewer to see if he has written many reviews or just a few, which can indicate his level of expertise. You can also see if he gives average, below, or above average scores by looking at the other reviews the ladies have. To verify that the reviews are legit, on TER ladies can "whitelist" the reviewer. You'll find whitelistings at the bottom of the reviewers page of reviews. On PD ladies reply to the reviews to confirm they are real. Ladies who have at least 10-20 good reviews from reviewers who have written several reviews for other ladies should be pretty safe to see. Note if you see a review about a lady who has pages of good reviews and you see the reviewer reviewed a girl that only has a few reviews its a clear red flag.
You CAN'T ask about lewd or sexual acts. That's a big no-no. By doing your research, you won't need to.
TER has a search feature so you can enter important criteria like city, age of provider, hair color, review parameters, etc. to find the right providers for you.
Many clients think that "Eros Verified" means that providers are legit. No, it doesn't mean that. If the provider is "verified" on Eros, that means the provider sent in a selfie with a sign that says EROS and the date and they look like the person in the photos. Which is great thing to know, but it doesn't mean they are good providers or even that they are providers at all, really. It doesn't mean the person in the photo is the person you will see. ALWAYS CHECK REVIEWS.
P411 is the best screening site. The clients and providers with the best reputations will be found here. But it costs money, I think about 180 per year.
I think you need to have at least two referrals from verified providers to become a member. All providers have at least 2 verified reviews from verified reviewers. But sometimes their sign up requirements change.
If any lady has a complaint about bad behavior, like charging more than what's advertised or not looking like her photos, she won't be allowed on the site. Likewise, if a gentleman doesn't pay as agreed, is a no show too many times, etc. he also won't be allowed. So that's why the clients and providers are preferred.
* I have no age or racial preferences!
Some newbies make the mistake of thinking that because they are good-looking, I should want to see them, or maybe they think I won't want to see them if they aren't. Let me assure you that what I find attractive in a man is reliability, respectability, and good hygiene. I have no age or racial preferences (except I won't see 18-20 year olds, must be 21 or over). I LOVE my clients, and this will be obvious to you. Of course my reviews reflect this, too. But I'm picky about who I see. It's because I am very selective that I love my job so much.
Common newbie mistakes:
-Asking about lewd or sexual acts-IT IS ILLEGAL TO EXCHANGE LEWD OR SEXUAL ACTS FOR MONEY.
-Over communicating between appointments. Really only setting up the appointment details should be discussed before or between meetings. Everything else should be during a face to face conversation.
-Haggling over rates. (I will NEVER agree to pay that lower amount)!
-Not respecting boundaries (having to be told "no" about ANYTHING more than once. This includes during the screening and booking process).
-Arriving late (more than 15 minutes).
-Staying too long after time is up. It's okay to chat while you're getting ready, but stay focused on getting ready.
-Trying to keep the meeting going after the time is up.
-Canceling late or not showing up at all.
-Disrespectful or rough conduct.
*NEVER BE ROUGH, RUDE, OR SCARY!
*Don't work the lady hard for every minute! That's not respectful. I love to have fun, but when it becomes selfish, it's not fun anymore. Most meetings are equal parts physical and emotional gratification, like a real date, if you know what I mean.
If I interpret any of your behavior as disrespectful or threatening, I will end the session and keep the money.
If you want to try something you've seen that could be interpreted as rough or disrespectful, you NEED TO HAVE A CONVERSATION ABOUT THAT (face to face, not during screening and booking). Try saying, "Is it okay if I ...."? Followed by, "Please let me know if anything is ever too much". You'll let me know that you know the difference between normal and beyond normal and that you don't presume I will allow beyond normal activities. .
This doesn't mean we can't have a lively time together either. I'm talking about activities that most people would consider putting a stop to.
Notice that I put this under "less common". By far, most of my clients, both experienced and brand new, don't need this advice at all.
How should you start?:
-Never mention anything illegal or sexual.
As soon as you do that I will tell you you have to go someplace else.
-*Complete my screening form.
I probably receive 10 requests for every 1 person I meet with. I don't waste much time during the screening and booking process. If you are somebody I want to meet, will you just keep in mind that you're a big minority, and try to understand why I'm so matter-of-fact during this part of it?
If you'd like to be among the top 10 % with me and other providers:
-DON'T JUST SAY:
I want to see you
I normally don't even reply to messages like that. Be mature and tell me or the provider the following without being prompted:
-Which city you want to meet in (Many travel and need this clarification).
-What you want (nothing sexual).
-Which day/s and time/s you want to meet
-How long of a session you want.
-If you have references from other providers.
Example: Hi Alexis, This is Bob Smith. I saw your ad on TER and I'd like to know if we can meet for lunch plus 2 hours when you're in Milwaukee. Almost any weekday will work for me. I have references if you need them.
Usually when someone doesn't specifically say, they want an in call meeting. Pretty much everything else should be discussed face to face. I have learned that serious clients tend to do these things. EVEN THE NEWBIES. Red flags result in no meeting.
Please complete the screening form form when you're ready.
I accept the following for screening:
1. A p411 account (my favorite).
2. 2 or more whitelistings on TER.
3. 2 or more verified reviews on PD (Private Delights).
4. Provide me with a reference from other providers/models. Give me the names of and contact information for models you've seen before. They must have 20 reviews or more somewhere or one year and/or 10 okays or more on p411. I can check that for you.
5. If you don't have a reference, you'll need to:
-Completely read this page.
-Send a copy of your ID.
-Send a selfie with something specific on it (instructions later). or I can do an employment verification for you instead.
-I will only be able to see you at my in call location.
Please be sure to shower before you come and wear deodarant. I will ask that you wash up again in the important places. I supply soap, disposable adult wash clothes, and disinfectant wipes for your hands.
I promise I will always be fresh from the shower.
I hope my website has helped you have a better understanding of how things work. Now that TER is back, please take advantage of their many discussion boards to learn more, inclulding a newbie's board, a legal board, local boards, meet and greets around the country, a humor board, a senior board, and more.
NOT A MATCH?
If you are a newbie, and we are not a good match at this time, please don't take it personally. Instead of just ignoring newbies, I'm trying to explain how things work. I hope you will try to learn from my website, begin to verify models by reading reviews, have fun safely, and come back to see me once you have gained some experience and references.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read through my etiquette and screening page. If you still have any questions, please don't hesitate to ask.
My favorite kind of man is experienced in the hobby, polite, and respectful!